Red Alert!! Tell-tale signs that your relationship is in danger!
‘Is it happening to me?’ What may have started as a niggling feeling some time back would have developed into a serious by now and you must be wondering if your relationship is in danger. Things were going pretty fine until now, but what happened that has induced a certain level of uncertainty? Let us find out more.
Most relationships happen to experience ups and downs. Up to 15 percent of respondents to a study by Relate, Marriage Care and Relationships Scotland admitted that they regretted being in their present relationship. At times people emerge stronger after difficult times, but people happen to develop nagging doubts as well.
Have you experienced the below mentioned signs in your relation? Well, if yes then you ought to be concerned:
- Communication breakdown: Everything was going mushy-mushy and you too would remain engrossed in long phone calls, and chats. You too would hardly let a moment pass without sharing the smallest of details. Have you started finding it hard to strike a communication or feel short at words most of the times? Hmm. Communication breakdown is one of the surest tell-tale signs that your relationship is not going in the right direction.
- Sudden changes: Every relationship has its own dynamic. Couples tend to have friction and that bodes well in releasing energy for the relation to survive. One of the partners remaining too quiet and disconnected is a red-herring for sure. Conversely, couples who used to never or rarely argue, as per the Relate, Marriage Care and Relationships Scotland survey, witnessed a sudden surge of arguments and catfights. Enough signs for anyone to notice.
- Evaporation of trust: What is your major worry regarding your partner? A number of you would dread the possibility of your partner having an affair. Is he or she indulging with someone at work? Is he or she having a physical relationship outside? Such doubts invariably release toxin in the relation. Your partner might be going through a difficult patch at work and you just threw a bag full of accusations for not being there or for not having sex. The result – more mudslinging and both of you are left with a bad mouth.
We happen to attack when feeling threatened. You thought your partner is flirting with someone and you launched at him or her. Bad move. Now no one is willing to talk and more toxic is getting released. This is a perfect case of self fulfilling doomsday prophecy and both of you end up as losers.
Where from here?
As per Ammanda Major, UK based relationship expert, “In many ways, deciding that the relationship is in trouble doesn’t come down necessarily to noticing specific things. In the absence of irrefutable “proof”, mostly it starts with just a feeling and that’s where its best addressed.” Keeping the communication channel alive and not acting merely on instinct would be a wise decision. Your worries might be born out of your insecurities and nothing much else. Letting the anxieties linger on without any affirmative action is pretty bad thing to do!